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To Like or not to Like

To Like or not to Like

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I apologize profusely for not sending you some inspiration on Thursday. I was at the Kyknet Silwerskerm Festival in Cape Town and things were just a bit crazy. I was blessed enough to be part of two Film productions that did very well. “Dis ek, Anna” won numerous awards and “Verskietende Ster” walked away with “Audience Favourite.” “Dis ek, Anna” will premier in October on the big screen and Verskietende Ster April next year. It was really awesome seeing friends, acquaintances and work colleagues from the industry. Some of them I haven’t seen for years and it was really great catching up.

I like people. I am a people’s person. I enjoy chatting and networking with as many people as possible. There was a time in my life I wanted everyone to be my friend. With the best of intentions, I tried to encourage friendships with certain individuals, although my attempts were repeatedly, discreetly rejected. I wanted everyone to like me and couldn’t understand when some people didn’t like me. I couldn’t handle the fact that certain people didn’t like me for no reason at all. It used to freak me out. I would become a people pleaser and lose my own voice.

It took years for me to understand that we were not born to like everyone. Even my parents at some point disliked me so badly that they couldn’t tolerate me for a second. That didn’t mean they didn’t love me. I have learned that while I can’t have everyone’s friendship, I can offer and receive respect, support and understanding. I have worked with many actors that I respect tremendously and they respect me, but somehow we have never solidified a friendship. We were not created to relate to everyone. I have accepted the fact that we all have our own journey. When people don’t like me for any reason, I have realised that it has nothing to with me and everything to do with them. What others think of me is none of my business anyway. What I think of me and what God thinks of me, that is my business.

I can’t change other people; I can only change my own attitudes. I can let go of my rules about how others should feel about me. When I am disappointed in another’s response, I can make an extra effort to be kind, warm, and loving to myself. I am ok just the way I am.

“To love oneself selflessly is the beginning of a lifelong romance”-Oscar Wilde

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“Just for today I will have a quiet half hour all by myself and relax.”

How simple it sounded until I tried to do it. Switching off and becoming still is probably one of my greatest challenges. I try and wake up every morning a half hour earlier to spend time with God but I often fail miserably-thirty quiet minutes out of my day were sometimes not doable. I used to feel like a failure and was left with feelings of guilt and self-loathing when I couldn’t honour my own commitment, but today things are different. I believe God wants us to come to Him because we want to, not because we feel we have to. Five minutes of quality time with God is a lot more conducive than thirty minutes of forced dialogue when everything around me seems chaotic.

Amazingly, quiet time with God restores me to sanity. It is through these times with myself, much of which is spent in prayer and listening to Gods voice, that I find peace and power within me. As a result I have learned over the years to tolerate and even enjoy my own company. I am at a point in my life where I am completely at peace with being alone and spending time with myself. I even talk to myself and laugh at all the ridiculous things going on in my head. I know that I am never alone, Christ is always with me.

Now, no matter what is going on in my life, I make time every day to get a better perspective on my life, and who better to do it with than Jesus. Even if I can stop the wheels from turning for even a few moments, God can take charge and steer me in the right direction. By sitting quietly in the midst of the storm, I find that I am never alone. With patience and a little perseverance, God always sends what we need.

“Take rest; a field that has rested gives a beautiful crop”-Ovid.

Thank you for allowing me to sow into your life. If you haven’t been to our website in a while please do so www.hopeinaction.co.za and tell as many of your friends and family about us. God is moving and changing this country for the better. In the next four months Hope In ACTion will be running a campaign with Afriforum to assist them with the necessary awareness concerning “Keeping God in Schools.” As you probably know Afriforum has been fighting a massive court case against a secular organization called “O God” who’s only mission is to remove Christian practices from our public schools. The court case is costing millions and your support will be greatly appreciated

If you feel like supporting this cause please Sms “BERG” and your NAME to 38313 and donate R10.00

I hope you have a lovely week. Always remember to seek wholeheartedly, serve fervently and love unconditionally! I send you happy thoughts and joyous smiles!

 

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Recognition

 

 

How often I look outside of myself for approval:

My speaking gigs are often not as exciting when no one compliments the speaker. The meal I fix at home for my lovely wife Melissa is not as tasty when no one compliments the cook and of course the part I played in my next Oscar winning performance wasn’t recognised with a standing ovation.

I often resent the things I do for others when they neglect to thank me or praise me. I have found that one of the hardest things in life is to do our part and not get found out. Think about it for a second; we love positive affirmation but we feel wrecked and apart from without it.

We all need the occasional pat on the back. It feels good when people praise our work and our abilities. There is nothing wrong with that, but when the applause of others becomes the reason for my behaviour and necessary for me to feel satisfied, then I have given them power over me. It’s exactly at that point when we start doing things with dishonest motives and we lose sight of our obedience towards God. We become self-centred and life becomes all about us.

People may forget to notice the terrific things that we have done or may not be comfortable praising us. We don’t have to take it personally. Self-pity and resentment are not our only options. If we can learn to evaluate our own actions and behaviours and to value our own judgement, then the approval of others will be enjoyable, but no longer essential to our serenity. Today when someone praises me for a great performance or a wonderful sermon, I ask them; “What part of the message did you like the most?” If they can’t answer me, I know that their lip service was only part of their flattery for favour. Who cares what others think, it’s none of our business anyway. If we act in obedience, some might never like what we have to say or do, but as Carl Jung said: “Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart”

My challenge to you is do something extraordinary nice to the person that likes you the least, and NEVER get found out, EVER! See how difficult that is. Christianity 303!

Thank you for allowing me to sow into your life. If you haven’t been to our website in a while please do so www.hopeinaction.co.za and tell as many of your friends and family about us. God is moving and changing this country for the better. In the next four months Hope In ACTion will be running a campaign with Afriforum to assist them with the necessary awareness concerning “Keeping God in Schools.” As you probably know Afriforum has been fighting a massive court case against a secular organization called “O God” who’s only mission is to remove Christian practices from our public schools. The court case is costing millions and your support will be greatly appreciated

If you feel like supporting this cause please Sms “BERG” and your NAME to 38313 and donate R10.00

I hope you have a lovely week. Always remember to seek wholeheartedly, serve fervently and love unconditionally! I send you happy thoughts and joyous smiles!

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